Research question would you date someone with an infectious disease?

Donnelsville

Dating someone with an infectious disease... herpes, hiv, aids, syphyllis, etc. How would this affect your relationship? Would it matter what the disease was... curable or uncurable? Should they disclose early on in the relationship? All feedback welcomed!



Kindred

If I truly loved someone then yes, but we would have to take precautions and have the safest sex possible. If it was someone I didn't love then I would not date them, we would remain friends however. I would be very pissed off if someone knew they had an infectious disease and did not tell me.



Lindsborg

no



Betances

no, thanks



Wales

hmmm.......thats a hard one i cant answer that



Red Oak

No, of course not. Why would you date someone who is.. 'dirty'.This will be the overwhelming responce, but this also leads to why people do not disclose such 'problems'.You dont find out till it is too late. I would KILL someone who gave me an STD if they KNEW they had one.



Catlin

I would but I'd like to be made aware of it on the first or second date.



Hazel Run

I'd like to think that I would be open to dating someone with any kind of disease as long as they were open about it up front. But it seems like one of those situations where I might react differently if I was actually IN that situation.



Bъfalo

no, it would give me the willy's...and yes, they should tell U, gotta be honest about your health!



Pleasant Valley

I wouldnt date them I would be friends with them though.



Wautoma

I would pass, but be good friends,



Greater Northdale

I personnally wouldn't date anyone with an infectious disease, but If I had one... I would definately let them know early on. First day!



Shenandoah

My first reaction if a guy introduced himself and later on he mentioned one of the above I would say no. But if its someone you got to know for a while and you got to really like and care about this person and then they dropped this bomb on you, maybe herpes i could tolerate only nothing else. I wouldnt risk my life.



Ahuimanu

I wouldn't. You two may just get too attached and you will just cause yourself a heartache.



Goshen

yes unless she just a slut. our first date would be to the doctors



Wonder Lake

uh that's a hard one but yes, I would date someone, I would want to know early on in the relationship, way before we did anything of course and if I really loved someone I think as long as we were careful I would love him anyway and look past that. And a response to the person who said why would they want to date someone who is "dirty" hello not everyone got it from sleeping around a good friend of mine was a virgin and got it when she was 16 by some guy who forced her to have sex...so you can't stereo type everyone.



Calimesa

They say love is blind. Nothing about suicidal, though.



Carnation

I think you've gotta take it case by case. It absolutely should be disclosed early on in the relationship. I think it depends on how they got it, if they knowingly spread it (not that they'd admit that), and how much you trust that person. You wouldn't want to risk getting the disease yourself, so you've gotta be as open and honest about it as possible. Also, make sure your partner is on the suppresent drugs for the specific disease to reduce chances of giving it to you, but be so careful!



Swaledale

Yes, they should disclose. It wouldn't matter to me if it was curable or not-that would tell me that person was irresponsible enough to sleep around without much forethought. That doesn't say much for this relationship.



Argusville

no i would put my self at risk cuz if u like the person then there would have 2 b some affection and u kno wat that leads 2.i will support and b a friend 2 a person who have an std but never in a relationship wit them.



Darien

No. I broke it off with a potential gf just beause she found out she had Herpes. No girl is worth the risk of getting infected. To her credit, she did come clean with the test result before we ever got serious. I think if someone knows they have something, they should tell them. No, I would never date someone with a disease. I wouldn't expect anyone to date me if I had one. The person with a disease should state what they have on day one, anything less is just being stupid and putting BOTH people at risk, physically and emotionally.



Galena

people should disclose if they carry std's before any sex. But No I would not get involved with someone if I knew they were dirty, why play Russian roulette



Rancho Cordova

My first reaction is no. After I thought about it for a few seconds I would say yes if it was curable and I loved him dearly. It should be disclosed before getting sexually involved and before swapping body fluids of any kind. Be prepared for questions & rejection. Some people are repulsed by that type of thing. Some are more open minded. Best of luck to you.



Koyukuk

It is not that I am going to meet somebody and talk about my ailments during our first date, but I wouldn't even kiss anybody if I had something contagious. I would say that I am not ready and would eventually tell the person why. It is not right that I am going to think just about me and think, "Who cares? I like this person, so I am going to have a good time not matter what." Those around us shouldn't pay for our mistakes or bad luck.



Dumas

That's a hard question. If I accept a date with someone who does not tell me he is infected with something; and then I go on the date, how could such a case be avoided? (Besides saying no to the date).



Columbus

NEVER...I knew this girl who met a guy with hiv virus and she ended up living with him. Her self esteem was so low she risked getting aids just to have a man. To make matters worse he trated her like sh@t!!



Shinnston

No, I wouldnt date someone with a disease, any kind of disease, sorry, maybe i am shallow or whatever, but I value my health, and I wont willingly compromise it.



Arcadia

well no way. how can some one do that. how can u date with your sisteer. its just they same question



Aliceville

i probably would not sleep with them unprotected whilst gettin to know them, but if we fell in love then id have to say that yes i would as long as their was love their,,



Milford

I would definitely not date someone with any sort of infectious disease. I even object to things like gross mouth sores and sinus infections. It is difficult for me to even have friends with STDs so I would not knowingly date an infected person. I demand to know infection status immediately and rather rudely actually. However, if this person were prime marriage material or potentially very beneficial (read rich or famous), I'd take the risk of having sex with them. I always use condoms anyway so it'd be little different from any other sex I've had.



Yoe

no way. my opion?